Planning Your Wedding | The First Decision


Photo: Vera Wang Spring 2010  verawangonweddings.com


Photo: Vera Wang Spring 2010  verawangonweddings.com
With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching and the holidays behind us, the newly (and nearly) engaged are everywhere!  If you’re one of them, one of those grand moments is occurring in your life.  I’m guessing you’ve found it’s followed by a whirlwind, right?  The excitement, telling your friends and family, showing off the ring, the questions everyone is asking about your wedding plans, the advice coming from every direction.  Where do you start?  Not all brides have one of those notorious wedding binders they made when they were 8 years old, full of bits and pieces of their dream wedding, photos, fabrics and inspiration that they added over the years.  What most of us do is get anxious and want to jump into making lots of major decisions at once.  Choosing the date, finding your location(s), picking colors, choosing flowers, ordering the cake, signing a photographer and committing yourself to things because they’re available is common, but maybe they don’t feel quite right because you can’t see the overall picture yet.  Sound familiar?
Here is the best advice I can give to a newly engaged girl:  “Slow down! Enjoy where you are at in life for a few quiet moments.  Start gathering inspiration from wedding magazines’ and websites.  Then, before you do anything else, make an appointment at a bridal gown boutique.”
If you’ve done it before you know that trying on wedding dresses is an experience like no other.  The usual rules of fashion go completely out the window.  What you walk in liking is very rarely what you leave with.  For example, I went in with planning to find a light and airy halter gown and went home with a lush silk strapless drop waist gown.  I know my body and what kinds of clothes fit me the best, but this isn’t like prom dress shopping, ladies.  Saying that bridal fashion is a whole other world is not an exaggeration.  The perfect wedding dress finds you.  You need to go in with an open mind, and trust your gut.  The reason I advise this as your first big wedding decision is because you never know what kind of dress you will fall in love with.
Photo: Corina Lecca. Badgley Mischka Fall 2010
A wedding is made up of many elements that come together to form one grand event.  Common with any type of design, if you want a flawless final product, all of the elements should mesh well together, be consistent and complimentary to one another.  Finding out what type of gown is going to make you feel like a gorgeous bride is the perfect first puzzle piece in this journey of decisions.  It is something solid you can use to base the remaining decisions off of.  The formality of your gown can assist you in what direction you should go with your venue and beyond.  If you fall in love with an elaborately adorned couture ball gown, there are venues that dress will look better in than others, like a ball room glistening with over-sized chandeliers.  If you fall in love with a flowy organic cotton v-neck gown, it’s just begging to be worn in a relaxed outdoor wedding or a rustic airy space.  If you want advice on all of the following decisions you need to make, just ask your dress!  It should be a reflection of yourself; it is one of the few elements of the wedding (along with your groom, your guest-book and gifts) that you will still be able to hold onto after the wedding.  It’s one of those things that a girl will love forever; it is the perfect jumping off point in an amazing journey ahead of you.   So, slow down…and make an appointment at a bridal gown boutique.  You’ll see what I’m talking about.
Been there?  Share what the experience was like for you.
Photo: Corina Lecca. Reem Acra Fall 2010.
2 replies
  1. Danielle Palmer
    Danielle Palmer says:

    VERY TRUE! I went wedding dress shopping with a certain style in mind and ended up falling in love with one that may as well have been the complete opposite. :P Btw, that pink dress is rocking my world.

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  2. Jennifer0926
    Jennifer0926 says:

    I went to a couple of bridal appointments before I found the dress, but yes, TRUST that sales person, they will try things on you that you wouldn't have thought of and it is a true wake up call!

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